Connecting with Erotic Pleasure
A Free Online Class Series for Women
Erotic Pleasure has been defined for us in narrow, limiting, mono-cropped terms. So much so that most of us (if any) do not fit the expectations. Our ever-evolving definition (that you may or may not agree with) of erotic pleasure is any nourishing, embodied experience that reminds you of and connects you in with your belonging to The World; from taking in a beautiful sunset, to sipping your tea, to earth-shattering orgasms.
Join us for three experiential, hour-long classes to begin (or continue) your process of understanding and embodying erotic pleasure for yourself, your ancestors, and The World.
These classes are an intro to our online program, Reclaiming Erotic Pleasure.
Pleasure from the Inside Out
We are told so many things about our bodies and our pleasure, from where we should find pleasure to what kind of touch should feel good, to how we are supposed to look and the sounds we should make in our pleasure. Much of what we’re told is contradictory. In the last few years alone, we’ve been told, “There is a g-spot and you better find it!” And, “The g-spot doesn’t exist, stop looking for it.”
We’re told to take our pleasure, we deserve it. Go for it. Be wild. Pleasure has become an industry full of books, guides, and tools promising to help you find mind-blowing orgasms. But most of what’s there, as much as it promises to help, continues to insist on telling us about our bodies, rather than inviting us into a relationship with, and exploration of our bodies that is all our own.
Watch this class to begin to dismantle the expectations that have been placed on our bodies and our pleasure, and to begin to deepen your listening to and relationship with yourself. Coming from your own body rather than others' expectations and assumptions is radical, intimate activism.
Your Autonomic Nervous System is operating all the time and is intimately involved in your arousal, pleasure, and orgasm. In fact, our nervous systems in their health, are designed to seek out nutrient-dense experiences of pleasure. This can include slow touch, just as you like it, all across your body; the excitement of meeting someone new and sharing ideas, stories, and understandings of the world; witnessing a doe and her fawns cross the street and disappear into the woods.
But our nervous system’s first priority is our safety. If the nervous system is caught in a pattern of activation, prioritizing our safety, it cannot also seek out opportunities for pleasure. Far too many of us grow up in intimate and cultural environments where our nervous systems become stuck in a state of vigilance - subtly (or not so subtly) tracking for threats. As a result, for many of us, experiences of deep embodied pleasure are rare.
Watch to learn some practices to discover how to attune to your nervous system, find your way to feeling safe(enough), and know when you’re at an edge and can keep going, and when it’s time to slow down.
Your Nervous System and Pleasure
Enchanted Arousal
We’ve been taught that our arousal looks a particular way: we get turned on, we do something with it (intercourse), everything builds and builds, culminating in an explosive orgasm, and then you’re done.
Sometimes, absolutely, this is what path our arousal takes. But when it doesn’t, which is often, we tend to think that we are the problem.
We aren’t. This model is top-down and patriarchal; a one-size-fits-none conception that fits few and leaves little if any space for the depth and breadth of our experiences with arousal. But, because it is so prevalent as to be thought of as fact, many of us end up cut off from the great opportunity for curiosity, exploration, and enchantment that our arousal provides.
Your body is a wild landscape, waiting to be explored and delighted in. Join us for an exploration into Enchanted Arousal with practices to help you learn what it is, what it looks like, and ways you can move toward it in your life.